Well, the wedding season is upon us, and we thought it would be nice to talk about something romantic. We love the tradition, for example, of our couples trading sweet love notes with each other on the day of their wedding. It doesn’t matter if the letters are emotional, funny, or even a combination of both – it’s the thought that matters. Exchanged notes are a great way to up your communication game, especially since you probably haven’t seen each other for a day. And no, you don’t need to be a skilled writer – you can still create a note that your spouse will treasure for a lifetime.
Start With Plan.
The first step is to make sure your partner is on board with the idea. Your future spouse may not be familiar with the tradition, but discussing it beforehand eliminates the possibility of embarrassment on your big day.
Brainstorm in Advance.
We know you are already in love but try to dig a little deeper into your emotions before starting your note. We recommend you plan to write your letter 3-4 weeks before your wedding and to start with a rough draft. Your rough draft should be a simple list of details and anecdotes you want to share. If you are a phone-junkie, you can even keep a running list and update it whenever inspiration strikes.
Find a Quiet Writing Spot.
Now that you have your thoughts collected in a rough draft, it’s time to put pen to paper – and yes, even in this age of total automation, the simple art of a handwritten note will melt your fiancé’s heart. We believe it’s essential to find a private space with just you and your letter. Our recommendation is to write it on the morning before your wedding when your emotions are in full swing.
Use Excellent Stationery.
This letter is likely to be shared with future generations of your family, and you want it to make it timeless with high-quality stationery. While you might consider it a minor detail, it will make the experience far more meaningful when your partner realizes the extent of your efforts.
Share Your Feelings.
Start your note with how you are feeling about your partner and your impending wedding. Are you feeling joy? Have you shed a few tears of utter happiness? Even if you are not the emotional type, it’s time to gush the mush.
Praise Your Partner.
Next, write a paragraph or two about what you love about your partner. Maybe it’s as simple as their kind and giving nature. Perhaps it’s their quirky sense of humor. Or perhaps it’s just their fierce loyalty to their family and friends. For example, one might start like this: “I love how we can talk about anything and get lost in our feelings for each other!”
Tell a Story.
If you’re facing a severe case of writer’s block, start with a story from your time together that you found meaningful, or that defined a quality of your partner you admire. Was it the time he took off from work because your car broke down? Or the time he sat down with your sick grandfather and listened to his stories from the past? Think about the moments in your time together that really bind you together.
Talk About Your Future Together.
Your wedding is about celebrating your love for each other, but also about how you both look forward to spending the rest of your lives together. Talk about the moments you are looking forward to in both the long and short-term.
Don’t be Afraid to be Cheesy.
Let’s face it – you are talking to the love of your life here, so a bit of flowery language is expected. You can end your note with sugar sweetness like “See you at the end of the aisle!” – sure, it’s pure sap, but also meaningful.
It’s a Love Letter, not Your Thesis.
In this context, a little spelling and grammar “creativity” will be forgiven. Your soon to be spouse will love your note the same way he/she already loves you – despite your flaws.
Keep it Short and Sweet.
You don’t want your spouse-to-be intimidated by a book-length letter. The best notes we have seen make their point in a page or less.
Find a Trusted “Letter Carrier.”
Seal your letter (with wax, if possible) and give it to someone you trust to deliver to your partner. This note is likely super-personal, and the last thing you want is your nosy cousin reading it for his latest youtube post.