If you’re engaged, you probably have heard several wedding myths by now. The problem? Some of them are hard to spot as myths and will cost you time, money, and frustration. In this post, we endeavor to liberate you from this disinformation.
Some of these myths are quite evidently based in old-school ideas and others have been around so long they are just accepted as fact.
Yet wherever and why these myths were born, all of us here think it’s high-time to update your wedding narrative. So – we aim to reverse some of these misguided notions:
1. Your wedding is all about your family as you and your finance’
Sure – this is a sensitive topic for most people. And let’s face it; no one is more excited about your upcoming nuptials than you and your partner. Sometimes, however, all that excitement morphs into unwanted opinions and epic expectations. It’s all too easy to lose sight of your wedding vision and focus on what makes everyone happy.
Have you heard of “tough love”? If so, it’s time to engage at that level and maintain your perspective. After all, your big day is more than just a wedding – it’s the start of your new life as a committed couple.
So if all of that doesn’t spark you to focus on your grand celebration that is all about you and your fiancé, we don’t know what will! On that glorious day you will stand as a couple, facing the world in a whole different way than ever before.
This wondrous day will be framed by your friends and family’s presence. So include your friends and family in your celebration, but also remember only you two will say your vows that day.
2. You have to spend boatloads of money to create a memorable celebration.
This myth is so ingrained in our culture that many couples delay their marriage until they can save more money. And certainly, we have planned and coordinated large and very expensive weddings – but the really memorable ones are in someone’s backyard or at a local park. Think of it; you and your planner are designing the event of your dreams. So do you want to emulate the latest glam wedding pulled straight from a glossy magazine? Or are handmade details like lovingly baked appetizers from your grandma? We have even helped with small elopement style weddings, and these are most memorable because of the love that went into the planning process.
3. You have to invite everyone you’ve ever come across.
This is also a pervasive myth; it’s not true and is wildly impractical. You do not have to invited your best work buddy or your best friend from 2nd grade. In the end, it’s your wedding and up to you who is invited. Spend a few minutes considering your guest list – on each name, determine if they are there because you simply feel obligated about or those who are must-haves on your list. This step is important both for your budget and your sanity.
4. The groom’s opinions just do not matter.
So – if you haven’t yet got our point about your wedding is about you as a couple, read on. A popular myth is that women have all been planning their wedding since their childhood – so a wedding should be all about the bride’s vision of the day. And yes, we have worked with grooms who want nothing to do with the planning phase of their wedding, but most grooms do want to be involved these days. Try to be open to his participation, opinions, and ideas. He might just have a vision of this own, and who knows? You might like it better. At the very least, planning together will enable both of you to discover what’s important to each other.
5. The father of the bride is paying for everything.
This myth has put a lot of pressure on fathers and we would like to dispel it immediately. Yes, a lot of fathers do contribute to their daughters, but in our experience today most couples pay for the majority cost of their weddings themselves. It’s common for fathers to pay for certain aspects of the big day, such as the rehearsal dinner. Whatever the details, we believe it’s time to take the pressure off our fathers – it could be a sensitive issue.